In July 2018 I became one of the pastors of CityWell UMC after serving a church in eastern North Carolina as the Pastor of Discipleship. I am thrilled to be returning to Durham, the place that was home during my days at Duke Divinity School, and am eager to reconnect with much of the organizing work that was going on in the community. I am focused on the intersections of Womanist theology, racial reconciliation, and Wesleyan discipleship. I have been enamored with the ways in which God wants to use my background in politics and government to instruct understandings of social justice and community organizing. My passion for liturgical dance has led me to understand the prophetic in exciting ways and to integrate it in my teaching and preaching. I conclude in all matters that love must be the ethic by which we conduct ourselves; “By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another.” My favorite book of the Bible is Revelation (because it is a love story), I enjoy a good cup of coffee in the morning, and me and my seven year old son Mark love ice cream.
Becoming the pastor of The CityWell is the latest in a series of adventures that have come my way as I seek to follow Jesus. My greatest adventure is being a husband and father. I am married to Amy, an incredible woman, who loves me well and makes me better in more ways than I even know. We have four wonderfully unique children, each a great gift from our Lord: McKenna, Ellison, John and Cayden. Life in the May house is never boring! I grew up in Arkansas and California, and moved to NC in 1996 for school. Upon meeting Amy, a NC native, in 1999 I thought I might like to stick around for a while. Amy and I married in 2001. After college I spent three years on staff with Young Life and in 2003 returned to school to study theology and scripture. During my four years at Duke Divinity School, I served as a youth minister in two United Methodist Churches and spent two more years with Young Life. In the midst of school, ministry, and having babies (McKenna & Ellison both arrived on the scene while I was in school), Amy and I discerned our calling to pastoral ministry… quite a surprise to both of us. So, in 2007 I became a United Methodist pastor and spent four great years at Southern Pines UMC. In 2006, when Amy and I first sensed God’s call to serve the church, we began a conversation that would carry on sporadically for the next four years…,“Wouldn’t it be amazing to get to start a new church in downtown Durham?” Well, in the UMC system, we don’t get to “write our own ticket,” so this conversation remained a private one. However, this dream proved to be God-given in August of 2010, when I received a call from the office of New Faith Communities asking if we would consider planting a new congregation in Downtown Durham! So, the CityWell dream was officially born and we began the wild adventure of following Jesus in this new direction. We moved back to Durham in the summer of 2011 and are profoundly excited and grateful for all God is doing in our midst. Perhaps God is calling you to join us in this great adventure.
I grew up in Lima, Peru and moved to the United States when I was 15. My story is one of the Lord’s nearness throughout this journey. The experience of immigration directed my time as an undergraduate at the University of Texas at Austin. I focused my studies on the history of Latin America seeking to understand how experiences of displacement form and shape entire communities. After graduation, I worked for a legal non-profit and Christian ministry and later served as the Community Pastor for a United Methodist Mission in one of the most populous Latino communities in Dallas. Both of these roles centered on outreach, relationship-building, legal advocacy, discipleship and pastoral care for Latino families, youth and children as well as connecting communities and congregations to churches, organizations and resources outside their immediate neighborhoods. I am now a student at Duke Divinity School and student pastor at City Well. City Well has a way of becoming home quicker than one imagines. One of the most exciting things about being in a pastoral role here is getting to build this home with each individual in the congregation through knowing them, their stories and witnessing the journey of their lives. I hope that in my time here, we discover how to be and act in this world as God has called us and that we do this by sharing our lives with each other and with the individuals, families, and congregations in our neighborhood.
Admittedly, I was not looking to become the Music Minister of any church, let alone CityWell. I grew up doing a lot in church settings, had accumulated a sufficient amount of wounds in great part from other Christians, and was fairly confident that church ministry was not the life for me. I became content helping out here & there, singing from the pews, and focusing on my liberation journey as a queer Black Christian in the South. Somehow over time though, my gifts aligned providentially with the needs & people here, and it’s truly been a God thing that this would be the particular pathway for me.
Interestingly enough, I’d known about CityWell since its origins; two dear friends told me in the summer of 2011 about Cleve & Amy May and their plans to help start this new church in Durham. I only visited from time to time since I had become pretty occupied with programs at Duke and in Durham since graduating in 2010. Eventually, I left Durham to complete a Masters in Counseling at the University of North Carolina in Greensboro. I finished in 2014 but struggled to find paying work and ended up moving back to Durham once I was hired at a tech start-up in downtown Durham at the beginning of 2015. I returned to Durham with an open heart, discerning what would be “new normal,” and that quickly began to include CityWell.
Now, as CityWell’s Music Minister, I confess that I’m re-discovering how to be part of this church family community in this position, a journey that will be ongoing. It can be tempting to turn everything into a kind of “performance,” but I’m resisting that temptation quite intentionally. Rather than just doing “what I think I should do” or saying “what I think I ought to say,” I continue to unlearn those internalized ways of performing church and to practice liberation in Christian community. At CityWell, I lean more & more into authentic forms of worship, worship that happens not just with the music we create but also with the words we speak, the lives that we live, and the dreams we champion to make reality.
I’m grateful and excited to serve in this creative role, and I look forward to the opportunities to connect more deeply with people here in Durham, particularly through the medium of the arts. To God be the glory! Love Love Love!